On Courting

Be it resolved by the Grand Council of the United Association of Americans as follows:

FOUNDATIONAL AFFIRMATION

This organization affirms the traditional institution of marriage and the resolution of differences between man and woman within it, becoming one flesh. The deterioration of that institution is recognized, as is the present precariousness of its pursuit. Despite the loss of the formal arrangement, valid unions of man and woman do exist, often defined by the terms boyfriend and girlfriend, earnest in their constitution, dignified in their vow, with a commitment and execution to eternal sexual attractiveness and faithfulness therein. This resolution establishes the process of a man sexually courting a woman through all stages, ultimately with the intention of marrying only a worthy one and upholding the vows within it, beginning from introduction, vetting, warmth, and rectitude.

PRECONDITION OF ATTRACTIVENESS

This resolution concerns men who are confirmed to be sufficiently sexually attractive so as to warrant the active courting of a worthy woman. Those who have not yet attained to that stage are directed to inspect the other laws and findings of this organization, in particular the resolution on masculine sexual attractiveness. All men proceeding under this resolution are presumed to have attained to that stage already.

THE STAGES OF COURTING

There are various stages to sexually courting a woman: conception, selection, introduction, vetting, warmth, entanglement, union, and marriage. These stages may at times overlap or assume a different name.

CONCEPTION

Conception precedes introduction. Introduction is not the first step. Conception is the understanding of what one's ideal woman is like. That she shall be devoted, undivided, and faithful in her love and support is not in doubt. What is of concern is the type of man to whom she shall be specifically and supremely attached. This specific union is defined as set forth in the resolution on masculine sexual attractiveness and feminine faithfulness. Since a man holds allegiance to his universal mission and principles, he shall know the type of woman who was ordained to support him in that capacity. This requires a full understanding of his mission. It requires him to envision himself from a third-person perspective, to this precise and limited end, in order to understand the type of personality and behavioral characteristics that would be highly liable to support and submit to specifically him and his ends. This requires a certain degree of intuition and private reflection.

SELECTION: OBJECTIVE STANDARDS OF ELIGIBILITY

After this comes selection. A woman must meet the following objective and reasonable standards:

I. CHASTITY

She must be chaste. She must not be, nor have been, a whore, nor have any intention or likelihood to degenerate into one. She must have had few or no prior sexual relations. Any prior relations must have occurred within a committed, gracious, and respectable relationship. She must intend that all further sexual relations be solely with you.

II. CONCORDANT PURSUIT

She must possess a small personal hobby or pursuit, not a job or anything resembling a career, that accords with your mission aims and shows concert between the objective and supreme principles of your mission and the support she should be specifically willing to render to it as a result of an ordained harmony. This is required for obtaining proof of such holy concert.

III. TESTIMONIAL VETTING

She shall produce evidence of being likely to be sexually faithful and devoted to a man like you, or to the principles you revere. She shall produce two female witnesses, such as her close female friends, who shall attest to her good character in the same overt act. The process shall proceed as follows:

1. The woman shall be taken alone and asked to explain a particular event in her life that showcases and demonstrates her good character and sexual faithfulness in general to principles of justice, which she showed feminine support to. General means womanly support rendered to general principles of justice, not to any other person, as support rendered to a person is not valid evidence for this purpose, having inevitably failed in the capacity sought, whereas support rendered to a general act may have succeeded.

2. She shall then be separated. The two female witnesses she selected shall appear and be asked the same initial question, describing it of her independently.

3. Then all three shall be gathered and asked to resolve any differences in their account. If there were no obvious differences, they shall be asked to reiterate once more as a group. Minor differences that can be resolved reasonably, attributable to trivial lapses in memory or other obvious and slight causes, are acceptable. Major differences that cannot be successfully resolved, where there is clear reason to suspect deception or other foul play, constitute failure of this standard. Otherwise she has passed it.

ILLUSTRATION OF THE TESTIMONIAL STANDARD

An example: a woman provides the case of seeing a cat stuck in a tree, calling for help, and observing diligently until help arrives. This act is then confirmed by two female witnesses. If she states she was waiting diligently but one witness states she was on her phone, she fails. The act must be general in nature. Womanly support rendered to just principles must be general. An account of how she supported a particular person, especially a man, is not acceptable or valid evidence for this purpose. Since that relationship clearly failed, it does not demonstrate eternal faithfulness. Saving a cat from a tree, or supporting its rescue diligently, does, because the cat was successfully rescued and the faithfulness was carried through to its actual intended conclusion. Evidence of allegiance to general principles is what is sought, not allegiance to another man. This provides the beneficial evidence she may be therefore forever supportive to you as a man.

THE REASON THE TESTIMONIAL STANDARD WORKS

A woman who claims good and faithful character will perform good deeds that can serve as evidence for it. If she cannot speak of one, she is lying. If two female witnesses can confirm her account independently, before they are able to gather their story, it points to honesty. Because women are famously prone to gossip, it serves as a very reliable indicator of honesty when two different women can confirm her account without deviation from the facts. Even among friends, women have a strong tendency to excite the slightest deviation from facts in storytelling into great tales. If such deviation exists, even among her allies, it points to a dishonest claim on her end, since even women intending to be truthful or to support a friend will inevitably reveal discrepancies where they exist, expanding any slight deviation from the truth greatly. Women are very poor liars when it comes to each other.

DISQUALIFICATION AND PRESUMPTION

If she fails any of these standards, she is not a valid woman to select for courting. Given the societal circumstances presently faced, presumption runs in favor of the negative. If there is doubt as to whether she is acceptable or whether she passes a given standard, she does not.

PASSING SELECTION AND INTRODUCTION

If she passes all stages of selection successfully and without reasonable doubt, the selection stage is complete. You may introduce yourself to her, assuming you are attracted to her, as a man intending to successfully court her. She is not your girlfriend. No formal or notable allegiance is owed to each other. You have selected her as a woman of sexual interest, proper character, and probable compatibility, and seek to take further steps to verify it. You may introduce yourself and these intentions. It will be assumed at this point she reciprocates the desire and wishes to be sexually courted by you. If she does not, reasonable steps may be taken to pursue her and showcase your passion and interest, but nothing excessive or embarrassing. If she declines a second time, let it rest. If she accepts but does not seem genuinely interested, or there is any doubt as to whether she is, presumption goes to the negative. Let it rest.

GETTING TO KNOW HER

Assuming desire is properly reciprocated, spend sufficient time with her so as to get a good read on her. Learn where she is from, how she conceives of herself, her upbringing, and her life plan, which should be feminine and supportive in nature. Explain the same about yourself. Pay close attention to how she reacts and behaves. She should be showing devoted and firm support, a clear undercurrent of sexual attraction, deference to your boldness in the courting, and eager engagement. Be clear, forward, and act with manly initiative to demonstrate your competence and interest. No formal relationship exists at this point. If things have not gone well, reasonable steps may be taken to set a clear course, but if it does not promptly get back on track, let it rest.

VETTING

At this stage there should be a good read on her and obvious mutual sexual attraction. Vet her seriously and in an investigatorial manner to confirm her character, chastity, story, and likelihood to maintain it. Have her introduce you to her female friends and her family, especially her male family figures such as her father and brothers. If she has male friends outside of these contexts, this is a significant red flag. Since you have made clear your intention to successfully sexually court her and she has accepted eagerly, her being friendly with other men signals dishonesty or poor character. End the process immediately and put her to rest as a potential partner.

The narrow exception is a provably appropriate circumstance, such as a childhood friendship that is genuinely of a sibling nature, confirmed upon close investigation by her family. If almost anything else is the case, end the courting immediately and without concern. The reason young women allow men to become friendly or close with them is usually because they are not opposed to, or are expecting, sexual advances from the man in question. Scarce are the exceptions, and every case carrying the slightest doubt should be treated in the negative. Presumption goes to the negative.

It bears particular emphasis: now that you have expressed your desire clearly and exclusively for partnership with her, and proceeded with a positive introduction toward that end, any other men she is entertaining friendly engagements with signals she is not being honest in her reception of your intentions. She should have expressed mutually and exclusively. No formal contract has been made, but since you expressed a desire to court her exclusively and for her to accept your courtship exclusively throughout the processes of vetting and acquaintance, any other man in this capacity signals a dishonest and disgraceful character. She should be left aside without concern.

If everything is going well, none of this will be the case. Assuming her character has been appropriately vetted, her story holds, her witnesses attest to her, and your personalities and aims align, proceed. Ensure that her personality matches yours and that she is compatible with the original conception you formed of the type of woman spiritually fitted to support your ordained mission. Interrogate her. Ensure everything she says adds up. Be slightly intense in the investigation.

WARMTH

If vetting passes, you may begin to develop what may be considered an informal closeness resembling a boyfriend and girlfriend bond. Begin to be warm with her. Light sexual contact may proceed. No formal vow or commitment exists at this point, and no notable allegiance is technically owed.

ENTANGLEMENT

Entanglement is the first stage at which a real and actual formal bond emerges. Both parties owe each other commitment, faithfulness, and attractiveness. There should be a tacit or explicit understanding of this. The terms boyfriend and girlfriend, partner, or other such terms may naturally or intentionally begin to be used, and the relationship may be discussed more seriously. A serious enough entanglement, especially where both sides have formally and explicitly agreed they are partners, or exclusive boyfriend and girlfriend, committed to each other's happiness, sexual attraction, and faithfulness, is held by this association to the same dignity and standards as marriage.

UNION

Both parties take explicit formal vows of partnership. This goes beyond the verbal acknowledgment present in entanglement and involves serious, stated promises and commitments of an explicit type on top of that foundation.

MARRIAGE

Marriage is the traditional sacrament of matrimony under God. This is the highest and most encouraged stage. Though serious entanglement and union hold equal dignity and standards, all parties are encouraged to actually marry. Engagement is considered an earlier part of this stage and involves the formal marriage proposal.